by: Staci Stallings
One of the things I’ve learned about Holy Spirit friends… they actively want you to be who you are!
They are not threatened by your best. They actively call that out of you. They love hearing about the real you. They don’t judge, criticize, or otherwise put you down.
When you talk about who you really are, they listen, and they encourage more of that.
To understand maybe a little deeper what I mean, here is a Youtube video. Skip forward to Minute 15 (Yes, you can watch all of it if you like, and if you’re an educator, please do. But the relevant-to-this-discussion part starts at 15:00.)
Now this part of the video tells the story of a young girl who was having a lot of trouble in school. The doctor she was taken to in order to “fix her” was very wise, and he realized that she was not a problem child. She did not have a learning disability.
He said very simply, “She’s a dancer.”
That’s what a true Holy Spirit friend will do for you (and what you can do for others)–recognize their talents, call them forth, and praise them.
I think for parents this is an especially important insight to develop. What are your children going to be? Watch carefully what they like. Encourage those things that are productive.
For example, as I write this, my 11-year-old son is in the living room singing “Let it Go” in 25 different languages–24 of which he doesn’t know.
Last night my oldest gave an important capstone speech at her school about one of the deep loves of her life–sign language.
My middle child is now practicing discuss because she loves that event in track. I have also heard her play the piano for hours learning a piece that she’s teaching herself to play.
What are you going to be? What are we all going to be? I don’t know, but I think one of the hallmarks of Holy Spirit people is learning to recognize, inspire, and encourage each other to be and become what God put inside of us to do.