by: Staci Stallings
Here is our second question that brings up soul answers that get to the bottom of everything:
Are you noticed, valued, and loved?
Our first question was about God–who we really think He is and how that shapes our perception of our relationship to Him.
The second question is both about our God relationship as well as our relationship with ourselves and with others.
I used to go at this question backward, and it created a lot of turmoil for me. Instead of seeing the question primarily about my relationship with God, I instead saw it in relation to others, then myself, then God. This created all sorts of havoc in my life.
Let’s face it. People don’t really and consistently worry about you. They are too worried about their own bad hair day!
So when you break your neck to get that business proposal in and your boss yawns, it might be because she got no sleep the night before. However, if you are looking at this question and trying to answer it from how she sees you and the feedback you’re getting from her, you’re in trouble.
I was like this with teachers. I had a radar for what they wanted and how to give it to them. That worked for awhile until the drug of their approval stopped working to give me that “high.” It began to take more and more and more to get that same “I’m okay” feeling.
I looked to everyone in my world to answer this question–parents, siblings, cousins, aunts and uncles, friends…
I got a lot of bad answers. Not because they were bad people and not because they didn’t care. Because I was not the center of their universe! (I know, shocking… right?)
When I finally flipped this equation and stopped looking at others to answer this question and instead looked to God, things finally began to be peaceable in my soul.
God always notices me. He is always right here. I can always look to Him when I’m struggling, and He always has time for me.
And He loved me enough to die on a cross so that I could be with Him forever.
So for me, the answer when I look to God for this question is, “YES!”
What is it for you? And how do you go about trying to get it answered?