by: Staci Stallings
Last week we talked about one friend who has been dieting and how her attempts at losing weight was like Thomas Edison experimenting with the light bulb. He had lots of failures that all eventually led to the success he’s known for. In the same way we are all “experimenting” with various things in our lives, finding out what works and what doesn’t.
Today I’ll turn my attention to a different friend of mine. This friend was overwhelmed when I met her. Haunted by a past she couldn’t change and wishing things could be so, so different now. Seeing that trying to change everything overnight would not work, I instead suggested she try something radically new–small things.
We’re not even talking small like cleaning the kitchen. We’re talking, being grateful for one minute somewhere in the day.
At first she was skeptical because what did she have to be grateful for, and what difference would that even make, but I challenged her to do one small thing. The first day was interesting because I think she related to me one small thing she did toward God and like 7 she did away from God. But the experiment was a success. I got her to do ONE small thing.
The next day, I challenged her to do two small things. She came back with a list of two small things and five things away.
Within a week, she had flipped the list six-seven small things toward God; two-three things away. Then in two weeks, she had a list of 8 things toward God… and NONE away!
So very cool!
But here’s the thing. She had come up with a lot of ways that life didn’t work, and she rehearsed them every day, nearly every minute of every day. She had gotten very good at picking herself and her situation apart so that there was not much left.
However, it was in experimenting with very small changes that she finally found the key to turning life around. It was in being willing to try something new that something new showed up. And just like rocket science, it was built one small piece of knowledge and understanding at a time.
So when you’re thinking about experimenting with life, remember, you don’t have to do a whole-sale change to everything. Choose some small things to change, to try, to experiment with. Do those things and then add onto them.
You might be surprised how quickly your list of steps away from God and steps toward God flips!
How wonderful to help your friend like that. Gratitude changes the attitude. I’ll check out your book now.
Got the book! I’ll review it on my site when I can get I reading it.
thank you Staci…..this helped me…. love. eileen